My pilot husband doesn't care much for personality tests. He thinks they put people in boxes too much and I think he doesn't like living under some stereotype. In some ways, he's right. All people are unique because of our different experiences, temperaments, birth order, beliefs, and personality.
I guess one way my pilot and I are different is that learning my personality has been key in my life. It all started when my youngest was about three and I began thinking about what life would be like after she was in kindergarten. I always knew I wanted to be a mom, and although I knew mothering would continue once they were all in school, the prospect of free time to myself was exciting and yet...daunting.
So, several books and studies came into my life. I checked out Do What You Are from the library, which is about careers and personalities. After taking the test and reading descriptions of jobs, the most interesting thing on the list to me was writing, but I still wasn't sure. Our church was having a study on personalities and the Christian faith. I wrestled with the short written multiple choice test, still unsure of what I was. It wasn't until I devoured a book called Motherstyles and took the test therein that I really felt that I KNEW that I was an INFJ. This book helped me the most because I had been doing full time mothering for seven years at that point, so I could easily answer the questions.
INFJ stands for:
Introvert—I get re-engergized by being alone. This does not mean that I'm shy, just I need some space away sometimes. Self care: Take a nap. Stare out the window for awhile.
INtuitive—I like to have the big picture and to be creative and to think outside the box, asking why questions. I am also idealistic and set high goals. Self care: Learn something new. Write or journal.
Feeling--Keeping relationships in harmony is very important to me. After I'm alone for awhile, I need to communicate with someone again and see how they're doing or feeling. Self care: Take a break from people who need you. Find out what things you really enjoy doing and do one of them.
Judging—I like to have a plan and a schedule. Self care: Have some area (even a drawer) that you are in charge of. Keep it organized just like you like.
In many ways, being an INFJ is like walking on a balance beam. You need to be alone—but you need to be with people, too. You like to live on a whim and go with the flow of your creativity, but you also must have structure.
Since INFJ's are one of the rare types, I've found that how I view and do life is different from many others. But, finding this out has helped me better accept myself and use my strengths, and work on my weaknesses.
Thankfully, even though my husband doesn't like personality tests, he still likes me—well, almost all of the time.
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"If Mama's not happy, no one's happy!" What Brings You Happiness is a blog designed to encourage you to take better care of yourself so you can take better care of others. Click on the categories below to find how I've dealt with various situations in light of who I am.